I love Ephesians. It is such a lovely book. It’s got everything in there it seems. From our identity in Christ, to glorification, to the big picture view, to spiritual warfare and family rules. But my favorite part is Ephesians 5:31-32,
‘”For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.” This is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Christ and the church.’
My dad and I were in our Greek class last week reading through Ephesians 1 and our instructor was talking about the Koine Greek phrase that we translate as “in Chirst.” The phrase and the context and the word for ‘in’ denotes oneness like a vessel being poured into. That something enters into something else and the two are one. And actually it is very much like a husband and wife being one. This is the type of oneness Paul was trying to illustrate.
That’s really intimate.
And it’s supposed to be. This is what the Spirit is writing through Paul. The intimacy he designed when he created sex and marriage was to be a shadow of something even more intimate, our spiritual intimacy and our spiritual marriage to Christ. Physical marriage and physical sex is the shadow, it is less “real” than spiritual marriage and spiritual intercourse. The consummation of our lives to Jesus in the marriage of the Lamb to the church is the fulfillment of every moment our hearts have ever cried out for love, in loneliness, in sadness and pain. We will be one with him. We were made for it.
This intimacy should drive us deeper to Jesus here and now
This isn’t a one sided love relationship we are in with the Son of God. It’s just not. No relationship, no love relationship functions that way. That’s just a reality of relationship dynamics. On the one hand we have the Son of God who is literally enthralled by us (Psalm 45:11), thinks about you and me and us so much that the number of thoughts he has of us is more than the number of grains of sand on the friggin seashore (Psalm 139:17-18), died for us, and on the other we have our own mixed up heart who for the most part flat doesn’t get that Jesus actually wants to be our object of desire (Psalm 37:4) as we are his desire (Psalm 17:8, Song of Songs 2:16, 6:3).
This is a little scary.
I get that. I remember my sophomore year of high school reading John Eldredge’s Journey of Desire and seeing his passion for me for the fire time, seeing how God really feels about me. It was scary at first! I kinda hid, literally, under my blankets. But deep down there was this, oh how shall I say it, little bit of excitement like, Is this real? Can I do that? I think I want it! And honestly, from that point on it was like swooning in his arms. It was like falling into this deep Lover’s embrace that I would fall asleep in and really never wake up again. I would forever, in the core of my heart’s desires, be numb to the idea that I have to get what I truly want in this world or in someone outside of Jesus. I knew from that moment forward that what was the desire of the deepest parts of my heart, to be known and to know a Beloved forever, for that One to be the One that my life revolves around, my rising and setting sun and my rising and setting moon, the stars in my sky, the lovely music in my ear, the breeze that kisses my cheeks (maybe I’m getting poetic here), that there was only One and his name was Jesus. He was going to be everything that I have ever cried out for and desired and wanted. From the screaming passions of my teenage years to the maturity and immaturity I still have today. He was the desire of my heart. He was it. He is it. He will be it. And one day I will marry him. Together, with the rest of his bride. That’s the desire of my heart. To be one with him, forever and ever, amen.